Wanting to help loved ones who don't want to be helped is a seemingly endless source of agony and anxiety. The spouse or friend or peer who rebuffs an offer of help clearly needed leaves those concerned in dismay. What now? Should one press on with offers, insistently? Should one argue the issue, trying to get the needy one to see the light? Should one walk away and abandon the effort, having been rebuffed? You have a saying - life is the best teacher. Simply stated, this means that one's own experiences are more graphic, test the theory, and result in a multifaceted memory of the whole process - including turning points - than receiving any of this second hand. The one pressing help is saying, in essence, that they know better, that their experiences should prevail over the experiences the recipient is about to have or has had. In essence, they are attempting to take an experience away from the rebuffer, who clearly is determined to have these experiences. But are they not about to hurt themselves? Perhaps this is the experience they wish to have. It is, after all, their life.
In 4th Density Service-to-Others the individual is in charge of their life. The only instance where others are allowed to interfere is where the safety of the others is threatened. As all are in Service-to-Others, this is a rare instance indeed. In frank terms, this means that if one wishes to starve to death to experience how this feels, to have empathy for those who have had these experiences in their past - they would be allowed to starve - no interference. If one determined to avoid all education, to be solely self-taught for whatever reason - they would be allowed to skip school. In addition to not dictating to one another on way of life, we do not press medical treatment unless the individual requests it. Of course, there are exceptions, as if the individual is in a coma or otherwise uncommunicative they cannot ask. In these situations we communicate with the spirit to determine the desired course of action. We do not argue with a desire for suicide, nor do we press a level of healthcare the individual may not be interested in. It's their life, and they can live it any way they choose.
Conversely, if an individual does request healthcare, every assistance is given, no matter how hopeless the outcome or fruitless the effort. As might be expected, our understanding of disease and proper treatment is extensive. We have no situations where we cannot treat a disease, baring the course of old age which is systemic and unavoidable and eventually leads to death. We seldom resort to surgery, focusing on the root cause of a problem and correcting this instead. Where surgery is employed, it is in the form of reconstructive surgery, where the pattern known within the genes is awakened and requested to express itself. Thus, an amputee or patient with a diseased liver would find themselves growing a new one, with the diseased tissues washing away, for instance. There are limits on this technique, as a newly reconstructed limb looks nothing like the old one and is always smaller and puny looking, but this proves to be superior to a prosthetic device in any case.
For those dearly concerned about a loved one, wanting to offer words of advice or a helping hand, wanting to see the loved one in better circumstances, the best course is to offer but not push. Offer in clear terms, so there will be no misunderstanding. Offer again, if a reminder might be in order. And then butt out.