Painful memories are a replay of a painful experience. In many cases the
pain is remembered separately from other emotions such as desire or firm
intention to complete a plan. The reason they are separated is that the
human mind determines to void a painful memory by washing over it and
dulling the sharp edges everytime it’s remembered. Psychiatrists will tell
you that this is what happens. Someone has a painful experience. At first
they block it. Then they remember it, perhaps in the doctor’s office, and
there’s much weeping and gnashing of teeth and wailing. This is called a
catharsis or a breakthrough. After that they remember the experience many
times, but each time it seems to have less effect. It lessens. The edges
are smoothed. How many women having experienced the extreme pain of
childbirth, remember the birth process and remember that pain? They
remember the doctor holding the baby. They remember the feeling of great
joy.
So the painful part is separated from the joyous part because the human
mind has structured it that way so it can close off avenues to the pain.
In fact, when this pain is remembered, these avenues are severed, like
slamming doors shut, so that the connection points between the pain and
the joy are broken and eventually only the joy is remembered. This is in
fact documentable, and has been documented, that this is the way people
remember experiences. In the long path, they remember the good parts, not
the bad. Therefore, contactees who are remembering something painful have
separated that out and are getting rid of it. Often the painful parts are
remembered first, in recall, because it is something vivid. After the
painful part is eliminated, the contactee begins remembering other aspects
of the visit. Bear with it, let your mind heal and deal with the painful
contact experience as it deals with other painful experiences, and see
what stands behind it. You are being contacted because you asked for this,
and you wished for what came to you, so don’t fail to dig deep enough to
find out the full picture.